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Approaches and considerations for getting him locked in the first place.

Relationship Situation
The how of locking a man in chastity depends on your relationship situation and your strategy. In regards to your situation, the first question is: are you trying to find a chastity boyfriend, or are you trying to lock up a boyfriend or husband you already have. The second question is: is he already into female leadership and/or clearly already submissive to women, and therefore a promising target, or is he just really into you and/or in love with you, but doesn't acknowledge his inner submissive nature. If he doesn't recognize his submissive nature, and isn't really into you, your chances of success are very low. As a result, it is best to approach three promising situations: finding a new boyfriend that is submissive, finding a new boyfriend that is crazy about you, and locking up boyfriend or husband in an already established relationship.

Find a submissive boyfriend - The most direct way of getting a man into chastity is to go out and find one who already recognizes his inner submissive. Find yourself a boyfriend or husband that is already into chastity and FLRs, or one you can tell will take to it easily. There are many men who don't actively embrace female leadership, but who are clearly submissive to women in life or relationships, and most of them can be coaxed, manipulated, and guided into chastity over time with relative ease. There are more and more openly submissive males these days, but finding one that you want to love isn't necessarily easy. It isn't easy to find that in 'vanilla' dating, and the enlightened submissive male pool is sadly still a significantly smaller part of the male population. If you can find both in one male you are on easy street.

Find an adoring boyfriend - Due to the limitations of the submissive men population, the wisest and most successful method is to find yourself a man you enjoy and share interests with who clearly believes you are out of his league. Manipulating males isn't exactly difficult, but getting a man with no prior kinky interests to accept chastity requires some special incentive to get him to bite. This does not mean you need to choose a man that is beneath your standards, just one that is really into you as a person, and who clearly finds you sexy. No need to worry about if he enjoys total female dominance. Once you have him, the chastity belt and his desire for you will do the rest.

Lock up a current boyfriend or husband - If you already have a man that you love, and you want to live the life of a princess with your man under your thumb, tell him about your desire and its importance to you. He may say that he loves you, and do things he thinks are gestures that show his devotion, but chastity offers you the chance to find out how far that really goes, and if he is seriously interested in putting you at the center of his world. Every woman deserves to have a man that cherishes her above all else, and any man who loves playing with his genitals more than pleasing you might not be worthy of the honor of being your man. If you absolutely love your man, and he absolutely won't agree to chastity, you have probably hit a dead end here. If he doesn't love you enough to get locked for you, maybe he will at least let you go out and get a chastity boy for on the side. It is a less immersive and fulfilling relationship to have your chastity boy not your main relationship, but at least one man will be tripping over himself to make you happy.

After the nature of your intened chastity boy is considered, you can devise your strategy or strategies. No matter which approach you are using, it is his male ego you are targeting to get him in to his chastity cage where he belongs. Whether you are appealing to his desire, his love, his word of honor, his inadequacies, or his vulnerabilities, one way or another a man requires either an ego bruising or an ego stroking, or most often the right mix of each, to get him to agree in the first place. It is almost never easy, except with the most willing volunteers, but it is doable. Use the right balance of negative and positive reinforcement, and your natural ability influence and control men, to set the stage. With patience, subtlety, and just the right prodding, otherwise reluctant men can be carefully introduced to chastity control. Choose a strategy most likely to be effective, or use a wide variety of strategies to get your lock where it belongs. Of course, even in our modern society, there will be many men who are just not going to ever agree to be locked up. Choose your target wisely, and remember that the only factor that really matters to lock a man up is how much he desires you, your approval, and happiness. Locking up a man that truly loves or desires you is no easier or harder than getting him to make any other kind of serious commitment, so the question ultimately is about his integrity and character, just like any other part of a female-male relationship. Presented here are some ideas about strategies you might utilize to achieve your goal.

Get him to agree to orgasm control - If going right into chastity is too much of a hurdle for your man, you can make the transition easier by breaking it down into two steps. First you get him to agree to the principle that he should be saving his orgasms for time with you, not wasting his sexual energy masturbating. Men will agree to this far more readily, assuming that you they can still masturbate when you aren't around and get away with it. You can then introduce chastity as your right under his agreement, since he promised you could control them. You can hold his promise over him, and if he says it is uncomfortable and he doesn't want to, you can accuse him of lying to you and masturbating behind your back, or let him know that you doubt his word if he isn't willing to grant you a guarantee of his promise. Even better is use creative wording or vague language in the agreement he promises to commit to. If you add a clause allowing you to monitor and secure compliance in whatever way seems necessary to you, you will have him basically already promising to let you lock him up. You then need only find the right way to hold it over him and you are locked on to your ticket to happiness.

Don't ask - The easiest way to get a man locked in chastity is to simply attach the belt without his consent. Of course, this isn't necessarily the best way, since a man that isn't already somewhat willing, properly conditioned, or fully in love will almost certainly react very negatively to such a move. If you feel you hold enough cards over a man to achieve this anyway, more power to you, but usually this isn't the case. However, if you already have a man that wants you, and is in any way a good candidate for agreeing to be locked eventually, forcing the issue may work just fine. It all depends on the personalities of you and the man in question, the nature of your relationship, and how you go about it. What's the worst that could happen? Probably that he presses some kind of charges, but most men who are so 'macho' that they would react that strongly would probably be far too embarrassed to get the law involved, let alone get a professional to help him get it off on his own. If push came to shove you could always just give him the key and that would be the end of it. Far more likely is that he gets angry and finds a way to get the belt off on his own. If you are serious about the head first dive, make sure to use a metal cage, and if possible, one with a built in lock instead of a padlock, which can easily be picked or cut off with a bolt cutter. Another good idea is to butter him up with the idea of trying it on, or a little chastity play for fun, then tell him that it's staying on, or 'decide' to play for 'a bit' longer, and go from there.

Target his male penis anxiety - Unless your man in question has a truly impressive male member, commenting, teasing, or mocking the size of his penis almost never fails to reach his mind on a deep level. No matter how much a man will try to deny it, a man's ego self image is heavily influenced by his subconscious assessment and anxieties about the size of his penis. Chastity is a great relief for men of small, modest, and average size, since the cage locked on by someone else makes it not his 'fault' that he is small. While this strategy alone probably isn't enough to get most males locked into chastity, this is a great strategy to supplement your other strategies for getting him locked, and is a valuable tool for your manipulation of your man at all times, even long after he is locked up. By making it clear that his penis is not the route to pleasing you, but can become the route to pleasing you through chastity, and the change in focus that will bring, you can help start to shape his attitude towards a pro-chastity position.

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