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A few answers to common questions about male chastity and FLRs.
Is a male chastity relationship even something regular people do? Is it wrong to lock a man up? Wouldn't living this kind of life be too weird?
Yes it is normal. It is more and more common all the time. Male chastity belts are a booming industry. No it is not wrong in any way, as long as you get his consent to lock him up in the first place, and to give you control of his releases. It may not be strictly natural, but neither are shampoo, plastics, or antibiotics, yet all are valuable technologies which improve the quality of life and enhance what nature has provided, just like male chastity belts. No, living this kind of life won't make things too strange, and in most ways, not all that different from anyone else's life. If you feel like it is too weird, try adjusting your comfort level, and it will seem very regular before you know it. You can live your life any way you choose, and there is little downside to ruling your home and your relationship. Ask yourself how happy you could be and reach for it.
What if he tries to back out?
As mentioned above, chastity control will only work if he cares about being with you more than the struggles of chastity. Making your together life fun and sexy, as well as productive and challenging, is the best way to keep him from trying to back out. If you made it clear that chastity is an absolute must for you, and he is just trying to get out of that, stick with it, and even take pleasure in his resistance. He will certainly come around over time. If he just cannot accept it, you are options are back to those mentioned in the prior section.
Do I need to unlock him at night because of involuntary erections?
You certainly do not. The first few weeks will probably involve many new sensations and pains. That is all part of learning to suffer and sacrifice to please you. The initial issue is chemical, and his body will adjust overtime. The more significant issue is mental, on some level he probably doesn't want to be locked, and until he starts wanting in his own mind and private thoughts to please you and to be locked up for that reason, it will seem like a struggle. It is usually best to be firm but encouraging, and do what you can to show that you appreciate his devotion. Until his night time erections subside, and his body gets used to daily life with the device, the solution is simple, have a small bottle of lubricant with him at all times, he should apply it to his balls and the scrotum whenever dryness and chaffing occur, to prevent skin irritation. This will help him significantly with night and morning pains as well, but it is usually helpful at first to have an ibuprofen or other anti-inflammatory by the bed, as it can help to rapidly take the sting out of the first few weeks waking up in chastity.
Shouldn't my man and I strive to be equals, instead of turning him into my total slave?
A balanced relationship is of course the only kind that functions. No relationship is truly one of equals. In the modern world, women are once again the choosers, and have an edge in any relationship, unless they allow men to dominate them. You are simply pushing your advantage to it's natural limits. He will still have his own life, his own interests, and his own ideas. Try it out, and you will almost certainly find that once you both get comfortable with his changing role, you will both be happier for it.
If taking away his manhood is my goal, shouldn't I just consider having his balls removed?
This is not recommended at all. If your boyfriend has agreed to your total control, that is of course up to you, and if you are married, he is your husband and you own him, so again up to you. Most women in FLRs don't want to go this route, so it is not even an issue, but if you find that you are among those that has considered this, think about all that his male hormones are doing in your favor. His desire for his sexual proclivities is what makes chastity so effective. If you take the proverbial carrot away, what is his motivation to please you. If you take away his male hormones, his desire for you sexually will change significantly, and you want that desire to be channeled into appreciation and devotion to your body and your sexual needs. It can certainly be a power trip and great motivator to threaten your man with this kind of talk, if he is being a bad boy, but removing his testicles would only be disadvantaging you.
Will long term chastity cause my man's penis to shrink? Will it cause erectile dysfunction?
Penis shrinking from chastity is mostly a widely believed myth, but there is some aspect of truth to it. The penis has no muscle to shrink from lack of use, and therefore does not get weak from lack of exercise. The penis is made of a flexible, spongy material that is designed to change size and shape. While it will not truly shrink, it will adapt to the size of the cage if it spends most of its time caged. As a result, if this occurs, it will become necessary to get him a slightly smaller cage to maintain the same level of security against having orgasms. The question of erectile dysfunction is possibly more of a reality, and yet many men who have spent many years with little or no release have found absolutely no loss in functionality. Remember that after any long term lock up with out being let out, it may at first seem as though it has trouble getting hard, but it simply needs a little time and use before it awakens to its full functioning. What all this means is that the answer to both questions is either yes or no, depending primarily on what you the keyholder choose...
Option one - downsize his 'manhood' for power, pleasure, and humiliation. If you have chosen not to use your man's penis for your sexual pleasure, it's size and potency really doesn't matter. Downsizing it by limiting time out of chastity to a minimum will serve to increase his humility and eliminate any remaining ideas of ever getting back the 'sexual prowess' he probably believed he had before chastity. It will also increase your feeling of power and control, as increase the enjoyment you already get from the various ways you have conquered his masculinity. This apparent shrinking only can happen over long periods of time, so it is nothing to worry about when starting out. While this 'shrinking' is not often a specific goal of a woman in a FLR, it really not that much different from the major goal and point of male chastity - that male orgasms are actually more harmful than good for a relationship, and that male obsession with their orgasms should be replaced with focus on female pleasure. Having a slightly smaller penis shouldn't really matter or effect your relationship negatively in any way, so there is nothing to worry about.
Option two - maintain the size and strength of his penis for health, training, pleasure, or fun. If you still use your man's penis for your sexual pleasure, but keep it locked when you aren't using it, there is little to worry about. Even if this is not very common, maintaining its function, particularly with the high levels of arousal a chastised man should experience when released, should mean his size is not reduced much if at all. Even if you have little to no interest in using your man's penis as your means for sexual pleasure, letting your man out regularly for teasing or edging will keep his member stretched and feisty while serving your power, his training, and frustration. Another great way to allow your man to have regular erections and keep from getting small or less functional is to unlock him frequently in situations where he cannot masturbate. Any time or place where you have him tied or restrained, or are fully supervising him during play, time together, or even chores are safe times to give him some out of cage time. Just be careful about this, because all it takes is for you to get distracted while your man is serving you in another room, and nearly all men who have been denied and frustrated will sneak in a quick ejaculation, ruining all your hard work and control. Using a little bondage or watchfulness, you man can remain in full time chastity and denied for any length of time and still have plenty of time out of cage in which to get partial and full erections, which should come easy and often to a horny and denied man. If you don't have PIV sex with him, rarely or never tease, and don't really let him out much at all, you can still maintain his size, or even enlarge his member with a minimal outlay of time and effort by using penis pumps. Just as the spongy flesh will shrink a bit if left too long in its cage, it can easily be trained to enlarge by means of pumps. You may choose to use these even if you do one or all of the other methods described, since using pumps on him is another fun and authoritative way for you to control, dominate, and train him. Make sure you read a bit about how to use these safely, because over stimulating him in the wrong way can result in ejaculation, which can also ruin your chastity training schedule.
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